I have a Facebook account. When I signed up, I was skeptical. I had already tried MySpace, but it must be a generational thing, because MySpace is dorky. Facebook seemed to be offering themselves as a slightly more mature version of MySpace. Oh, but it’s ever so slight.
I’m not going to talk about the idiotic time wasters on Facebook, or the attempts by Facebook to have you share those idiotic time wasters with every single one of your Facebook friends. There is a more significant defect in Facebook and the culture that it is promoting.
In the past few weeks, I have been invited on Facebook by two significant friends. These are not friends-of-friends, people I attend church with, or people whom I know casually. These were people I shared my life with during my college years. We were all members of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship together. We met together formally a couple times a week, and often ate meals together. They were also fellow music majors, so really, I saw them constantly. It has been over 15 years since I have seen either of them.
And now we’re friends. Officially. Thanks to Facebook. But you know what? Since being added as their friend, there has been literally no communication with them. No email, no message on my Facebook wall (dumb feature), no anything. But I’m their friend. I was going to write to them, but thought I’d let this experiment play out and see if they would write me; after all, they sought me out. But nope.
This is Facebook culture. You have friends, but not friendships. I can challenge you to a movie trivia challenge, or poke you, or super poke you, or invite you to join my latest cause, but it’s all meaningless. None of the interactions (except, perhaps, the rare entry on one’s “wall”) are significant.
But perhaps I’m not seeing the bigger picture. Any Facebook advocates out there?